Personal and Spiritual
Development Coaching
The Patterns in Your Life Repeat,
and They are Here to Show You Something...
Personal and Spiritual Development Coaching is a multifaceted offering that utilizes proven coaching tools and methods to form a personalized strategy that fits your life and needs.
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I support people who are trapped in the cycle of their repeating patterns, to experience freedom, lightness, and to access their own powerful spark of life through practical, relational, and spiritual coaching processes.
When life "doesn't work" - when you have repeating experiences like feeling stuck, feeling lost, indecision, overthinking in a loop, loneliness, relationship difficulties, issues with family, procrastination, getting distracted from your goals, etc-
you might not even initially realize they are patterns.
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Somehow, each time, it feels new- even though you know you've been here before.
Are the emotions that you are experiencing now, the same ones that always return?
Why might that be?
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Here's something interesting about our patterns that we can't always see: the external circumstances and cycles are often covering up what is lying underneath- the parts that we don't want to see and feel.
We feel unlovable, like frauds, as if we are never doing enough, rejected, abandoned. We feel terror in the face of life.
We believe, deep down, that we are flawed in some inexcusable way.
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In order to "cover up" this supposedly unforgivable flaw, we focus on the external-
always trying to fix or change ourselves or our lives.
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Below is an example of the kinds of cycles that run our lives, if we are not aware of them...
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Let's pretend that somewhere, deep down, someone believes that they are unworthy.
I mean, really unworthy - that they do not deserve respect, love, attention, kindness - you name it.
Can you experience the insidious nature of that underlying belief?
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If someone truly believes that they are unworthy, how can they ever authentically
deem themselves deserving of a full life?
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The answer: they can't. Worthiness is never a possibility as long as unworthiness runs the show.
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So, imagine that this person covers up feeling unworthy by always attempting to make other people happy. This is called a survival mechanism. We survive the belief of 'unworthiness' by creating a way to avoid the feeling.
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By people pleasing and gaining someone else's approval, they'll never have to FEEL that unworthiness, right?
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Nope.
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Unfortunately, the unworthiness will always creep back in as long as they believe it to be true. As long as unworthiness is hiding underneath, they will use their survival mechanisms to attempt to feel worthy.
It will never work... why?
Inevitably, something will happen (something always happens, it's life!) and they will perceive that the other doesn't find them worthy.
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Why? Because they already do not believe that they are worthy, deep down.
There are a lot of words and feelings attached to this world of unworthiness -depressed, sad, hurt, angry, not good enough, ugly, a loser, a reject, a weirdo... all stemming from the underlying belief of being fundamentally unworthy.
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They go into the hole of unworthiness until they can't stand it anymore and then, once again, they will try to please someone and get their love so that they don't have to feel those horrible feelings anymore.
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And the cycle starts over again.
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What is the cost of this cycle of survival?
The cost is that we sacrifice our vitality and aliveness! We sacrifice our presence, peace, and wellbeing.
We are stuck in a loop, in a limited cage.
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In survival we cannot create a vibrant life because we are stuck in the past, believing there is something wrong with us.
My Friend, Here's the Truth:
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We are human. This is all just a part of the human experience. We can embrace every aspect of our existence, with love.
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Those underlying beliefs... the ones that tell us that we are flawed, bad, unworthy, not good enough...
They aren't true. They were never true.
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Now, as adults, we simply get the opportunity to learn to understand our individual survival patterns, love ourselves deeply,
catch the cycles, and calm our minds and bodies.
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Since the patterns live under the surface, simply telling ourselves the opposite won't transform our lives.
(This is why "positive thinking" without the inner work does not often make a difference.)
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Through personal and spiritual development coaching, we can learn and embody a new way of being.
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Here is What You Will Get Out of Our Sessions:
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1. You will discover the source of those negative beliefs. You will find the very first time we believed it, how it effects you today, and why the pattern continues in your life.
You will learn how to specifically address the blocks and barriers that are holding you back in life.
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2. You will learn tools for regulating your nervous system, caring for your inner child, and loving yourself in a deep and meaningful way.
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3. You will learn or strengthen your spiritual practices to give you access to your soul space.
This allows you to step outside of the above cycle.
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4. You will experience a safe, confidential, and non-judgmental space of listening, to let go of what holds you back.
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5. You will learn Awareness and Inquiry as tools to reduce the hold of your patterns.
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Your life is calling you.
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Your soul is longing to experience being fulfilled, alive, thriving, and free!
You deserve to feel powerful in your life, and to access deep reverence for your life and authentic self-love.
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This coaching process promises to give you the tools to access to those experiences.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
- Marianne Williamson
Modalities Utilized in Coaching Sessions:
Shadow Work/Ego Disentanglement
Awareness Keys ™
Soul-Expression Work
Mindfulness Practices
Somatic | Embodiment Practices
HeartPath Tracking
Nature Connection for Somatic Healing
Testimonials
"My work with Abby has been very enlightening. I was already familiar with many methods of working with the ego (mindfulness meditation, parts therapy, shadow work...) and what Abby offered me was a very clear framework for understanding how my ego developed with me over the course of my life, and EXACTLY how to respond in the moments when I slip back into ego-based narratives and behaviors.
I am continually referring to my ego snapshot and finding myself practicing the techniques Abby taught me, daily. This has been a unique and important key to understanding myself more deeply,
and I am so grateful for Abby's help."
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- Devin R.
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